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Good Dads GREAT DADS is featured in a South Australian magazine this week. The magazine is available in coffee shops and public free reading stands etc as well as in Koorong Bookstores.

They have also written a positive review of the book. This sure does help to get a message of encouragement out there to dads that we need to be the generation that makes a huge leap forward in being highly engaged with our children and very effective in their upbringing.

Click here to read the article and scroll through the magazine.

http://www.imags.com.au/flipbooks/rise/march2014/#1

Be sure to scroll through and enjoy some of the many articles I have written for your inspiration and encouragement here at Good Dads GREAT DADS.

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Great Relationships

Fresh inspiration for dads.

Welcome to the 100th post on the Good Dads GREAT DADS website. This is where fatherhood is celebrated and men are encouraged to be the greatest dads they can be for the sake of their children.

Then:

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In July 2010, I sat down at my computer and put this blog site together on WordPress. I was stuck at home as a patient having a prolonged battle with Leukaemia. I had applied for a few jobs and continued to be beaten by the “other” guy.

I was unemployed, financially broke and dealing with medication and tiredness. The one thing I wanted to do was encourage other men in their relationship with their children. So I began to write. It was something I could do.

I am a dad. I have 3 grown boys. The, eldest at 24 has announced he is moving out this coming Wednesday. One son has already moved out and our youngest at 21, remains at home. I love being a dad.

I needed to learn how to be an effective dad because I wanted to give my boys the very best chance in life and for more selfish reasons, I wanted to build a close relationship with my children. One that I would hopefully get to enjoy for a lifetime.

This is something I wish I could have enjoyed with my own dad.

I desired to write of my experiences in a way that would encourage other dads (and anyone else that enjoyed what I had to say).

There are now visits to this site from over 106 countries and I am privileged to have been able to write a book on the subject which is selling in many countries as well.

I have been back in the workforce for over 2 years and am enjoying good health. (I still look forward to the day when I am clear of Leukaemia)

As I take a moment to think about having written 100 entries here, I am reminded why I continue to do it. Every dad needs encouragement to continue to be awesome in their children’s lives. The years we have our children in our care goes quickly and we need to make every day count.

Now.

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I will never reach every dad with me my message, but I am very glad to have contributed into the lives of the ones I have connected with through this blog and through the book.

If you have been finding value and fresh inspiration from my blog then I am glad to have made that contribution and I will continue to do so.

Please take the time to scroll through the past blogs to see what subject grabs your attention.

My top 5 suggestions for building great relationships with your children.
1. Schedule regular one to one time with each child (eg dad and daughter date or father and son adventures)
2. Show an interest in whatever they are interested in (their various hobbies or sports).
3. Communicate your feelings to them. (Tell them why you are proud of them, how much you love them. This can be both verbal and written in a letter/card, preferably both).
4. Be a great role model for them in every area of life. You are their personal text book of how to behave, react and respond in every area of life.
5. Make it a priority to build great family memories. Family fun nights, overnight getaways, and family holidays are some great ways to create strong family memories.

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Grab a copy of Good Dads GREAT DADS for a super boost in building great relationships with your children.

May you continue to strive to be a GREAT DAD!

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Tim Costello speaks about Fatherhood

Encouraging good dads to be GREAT DADS!

I had the privilege of working with Tim Costello as a World Vision Staff member. He really got behind me when I launched Good Dads GREAT DADS and wrote the book. he has been such an inspiration to me.

Tim Costello wrote the foreword for my new book which is available worldwide and I am excited to report selling very well. His reflection on fatherhood is rather special. I thought I would share it with you.

By Tim Costello

Australian literature is replete with stories of absent dads, from Henry Lawson’s tales of courageous women battling to raise poor kids with a missing father, to the modern-day phenomenon of workaholic absent fathers. Yet fathering is a man’s most important calling.  Seeing children grow and thrive is life’s greatest reward, and the rising of new generations is what moves humanity forward.  This is a book that addresses the task of being a father, and it is inspiring.

I find it encouraging that more and more fathers are taking a much more active role in parenting – something incredibly positive for the fathers, their partners and their children alike.  But being a parent isn’t always easy – knowing what to do doesn’t always come naturally.  And all kinds of circumstances can make the job harder, especially for those parenting alone, or who are separated from their partners.  So it really matters that fathers share their experiences and learn from each other.  Hopefully this book will make a real difference to many men struggling to make the most of the unique privilege and opportunity that fatherhood gives us.

Growing up I was fortunate to be very close to my father – who for a few years I saw every day at school as well as at home.  He was a powerful yet humble role model – a teacher by vocation, and truly a teacher by nature.  He conveyed to me so much about love and belonging, about responsibility and care, and about the joy of life.  He was always an encouraging voice, nurturing care and curiosity about the world, and affirming all of us as we faced life’s big challenges and questions.  He shared equally an enthusiasm for robust discussion about the issues of the day, and an unbridled love of sport.

Like many parents in today’s world, my experience of fatherhood has been very closely bound up with a demanding work life.  Life has brought many fascinating travels and experiences, but of all the roles one can fill in life, I remain certain that nothing can come close in terms of satisfaction and reward than being with one’s children as they grow to adulthood.

I thank Mal White for the gift he is offering with this incredibly thoughtful yet practical work. Mal has tapped into a deep well of reflection and wisdom.  I know that many will find this book a valuable help in enhancing their journey towards becoming ‘great dads’.

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A new generation of dads

Welcome to Good Dads GREAT DADS.

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Fatherhood is one of the greatest privileges in life. I count it one of my greatest treasures to have a relationship with my 3 adult sons. I am so glad I read and learned what I needed to do as a dad to build depth in my relationships with them when they were children. Many men, like me, want to be significant in their children’s lives. We want to be participants in their development, not just spectators. They, like me, want to learn.

I believe there is a generational shift in the way we do Fatherhood in our culture.

The first chapter in my book is titled Good to Great. Addressing the generational change, it begins,

“In the past many men have had to toughen up (harden their hearts) due to war, high mortality, hardship, and the brevity of life. They learned to hide or suppress their emotions in order to survive and cope with life. This stifled their relatability to women and children. Generations of emotionally impoverished men fumbled their way through relationships and opted for the hunter-gatherer role within the household, leaving the emotional, relational and social development and the maturing of children up to the mothers and, mostly female, classroom teachers.

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The emotional and relational lack is passed on from one generation to the other until someone consciously decides to break the cycle.”

Some men are more intuitive than others, but ask any man that is a parent what his priorities are and in nearly every case, he will tell you that his children, and their well-being, are his highest priority.

Contrary to what some more extreme feminists may write or say about men, we actually do have a heart, we are tender and caring, we do value our relationships. We place great value on our children and their development.

Hundreds of thousands of books are sold each year on how to be a better dad. Subjects such as how to raise boys and girls, how to understand our children’s personality differences and their individual needs are a focus. My own experience as a writer on the subject and a constantly growing audience, also demonstrates a keen interest on how we can be more effective at being great dads for our children’s sakes. My book has now been read by over 2,000 people since being printed 5 months ago and an average of 15-20 people visit my site to read some of my blogs every day.

Our generation are making that conscious decision to be better dads. Most of us dads are wanting to have better insight and understanding of how to raise confident kids. Not every dad has made that decision of course and there are still many that need to be informed and many that need a smack over the head (putting it nicely) because of the way they treat their children and partners.

If you know a dad that is keen to be a great dad, may I suggest you buy them a relevant book and write an encouragement card for them. Be tactful and very positive. If every dad on the planet got their act together we would reshape this world from being one of brokenness and dysfunction to one that is positive, engaged, relationally intelligent and confident.

We would see less greed, aggression, violence and crime because children would know that they measure up in their father’s eyes, that they are valued and loved deeply.

I am glad to be part of this generation and I am glad that people like Steve Biddulph, Dr. James Dobson and John Eldredge, to name a few have written such empowering books for men.

Perhaps you have not yet purchased a copy of Good dads GREAT DADS. As the author, publisher and promoter, may I be excused for giving it a plug also? E-book and paper book are available everywhere that books are sold. Aiming to invest in 10,000 families with my book by end of 2015.

If you liked this blog, please help me get a message of encouragement out there. Simply copy the url (in the address bar) and tell your friends on social media about what you think about Good dads GREAT DADS and post the url there as a link for them.

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Meaningful milestones

Fresh inspiration for Dads!

ages and stagesWe celebrated our youngest son, Josiah’s, 21st birthday last night with a spit roast BBQ. A gathering of about 35 relatives and friends helped to mark the milestone occasion.

I made the traditional parent’s speech. I spoke of our pride in our son, highlighted some of his qualities as a person and shared how we look forward to seeing his life unfold, what choices he will make and what opportunities will come his way.

father_and_kid_244x183It does feel like quite a milestone for a parent when your youngest child reaches this ripe old age.

I noticed on Facebook this week many proud parents sharing photos of their children dressed in brand new school uniforms ready to begin their schooling life (In Australian the academic year begins at the end of January).

Another friend posted on Facebook that since the birth of their child 4 weeks ago, their whole life has completely changed.

dad wRaising children is a day in – day out responsibility and privilege with a series of milestones along the way.

Birth, the first sleep through, cutting those first teeth, first steps walking, the first bike ride without training wheels, the first day of school, the first day of secondary college, graduation, driver’s license, the 18th birthday and the big one, turning 21. For some families there are religious milestones along the way as well.

It’s great to celebrate each of these milestones accordingly but I think the great value in being a dad is making every day a very special one. Being sure to spend valuable time with each of your children, let them know how much you love them and treasure them.

Twenty-one years is a long time and gives us a great chance to invest in our children’s lives. It’s in the daily relationship building and our focus on our children’s personal development year in, year out that will give our children the best start in life and the confidence to take on everything life will present to them.

father-daughter-golf-courseCelebrate the milestones in your family’s life and make the most of every day you have with your children. Be careful to not let days, weeks, months and years slip by without meaningful connection with your children.

The rest of your life is a long time and there are many more milestones to celebrate with your children. Make sure you prioritise being a great dad in their lives so that they will want to be great sons and daughters in your life as the years roll on.

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Good dads GREAT DADS in the media

Article in local paper promoting my book.

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read here, http://www.heraldsun.com.au/leader/east/croydon-south-dad-mal-white-writes-book-encouraging-other-dads-to-be-the-best-they-can-be/story-fngnvlxu-1226702918819

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New year’s dad

Fresh inspiration for dads.

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A fresh start to the year. Happy New Year.
I have enjoyed a break over summer and am super excited at the year ahead and continuing to write the Good Dads GREAT DADS blogs. This blog site is now visited from people from 106 countries and the sale of Good Dads GREAT DADS, the book, around the world is a huge encouragement to. Thank you for the positive reviews and feedback. It means a lot.

Looking ahead at 2014, what are you going to do differently? What new goals have you set for yourself? Have you considered how you would like to improve, or build on the relationship you have with your children? Have you thought about what new activities you may be able to pursue with them. Are you able to get a little more involved in their school class, or, if they are older, what interests or hobbies are they passionate about and is there a new angle for you to be more supportive or more involved with these?

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I spoke to a colleague today who took his 5 year old son fishing for the first time off St.Kilda beach. After 2 hours my friend could hardly pry his son away from the activity. He obviously loved the fishing experience even though they caught nothing. I suspect that having the one to one time with his dad was a big part of the enjoyment for this little fella.

My encouragement to every dad this year is to sit down with your child, or each of your children, and firstly tell them that you would like to spend a bit more time doing something together with them this year, just the two of you. Then ask them “What is something you would like to do this year just with me?

Then make this activity one of your highest priorities and be sure to follow through. Enjoy spending more one to one time with each of your children, regardless of their age, in 2014. In doing so you will build some great memories together and a closer relationship with them.

I have been invited to contribute a regular article to a magazine as the resident parenting writer and have the opportunity to contribute to a new app to help parents develop their skills and relationships with their children. These are good opportunities to offer encouragement to others which I look forward to being involved in this year.

If you like the Good dads GREAT DADS blog please feel free to promote it to your friends and colleagues.
Have a great year being a dad as well as in all your other life activities.

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Children are a gift

The children of the world need GREAT DADS. (as well as GREAT Mothers!)

IMG_1103Children are a precious gift to us. We have but a few years to contribute to the shaping of their lives. We cannot leave their future to chance.

Most mothers are intuitive about their children’s developmental needs. Most of us dads need guidance and input from others to know how to effectively build life-long relationships with our children and to know how to contribute significantly to our children’s emotional, mental, social and spiritual wellbeing.

I’m the first to admit that I needed to learn from other writers and speakers because I wanted to be the best dad I could be for my own children. I needed to learn whatever I could from others.

I have heard research quoted that reports only 10% of Australian men have a close relationship with their fathers and in the US about 17% of men enjoy closeness to their dads. Will this trend continue or will this generation make the difference and increase the quality of father child relationships?

Being a “front foot” dad, ie taking the initiative to be highly effective in our children’s lives, does not just happen by chance. It is a decision we make as men to step up.

Most of us are good dads, generally speaking. What the children of this world need are GREAT DADS!

What does it take to step up and be a great dad? What measure do you use to know if you are doing ok as a father? Will your children enjoy a close relationship with you when they are adults? How do you know? Are there any guarantees? Are we prepared to do whatever it takes to give our children the very best chance to succeed in life? What does it mean for them to succeed?

What can you and I do differently today, this week, this coming year, to give them our very best? What does it mean to be a great dad?

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The Dad movement

Good Dads GREAT DADS inspires families.

love write on sandWars have taken dads away from families. Alcohol, drugs and other addictions have taken dads away from families. Hunger and the need to find work have taken dads away from families. The modern corporate world has taken dads away from families.

We the dads of this generation say ENOUGH!

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Our children need us to be there. Our partners need us to be there.
Our families depend on us not just to put food on the table and a roof over their heads. They need our love, our affirmation, our protection and our care.

Our children need to hear from their dad how valuable they are.
Boys need to know they measure up in their dad’s eyes.
Girls need to know that they are highly regarded princesses in their daddy’s eyes.

If we get nothing else right in this life we need to get our role as Dad right. Our children and their future depends on it.

We now know that much of the world’s pain is caused by absent, disengaged or abusive dads. Their is a revolution among us. There is a change happening.

Dads and key influencers around the world are shouting out…“Dads are needed and wanted in their families. Dads hold the keys to much of their children’s personal development. There is a reason children need mums (moms) and dads.”

We partner together to grow our children.

Many dads today get it.
iStock_000003754795SmallWe play with our kids daily. We read to our children, We attend their sport and their ballet. We play dress ups and go on father-daughter dates. We wrestle with our children, we are more conscientious about our role-modelling and our mentoring.

iStock_000006401605SmallDads of the world, we need to step up together and make this world a better place.
Our families need us, our partners need us and, if we are to build a brighter tomorrow, we need to invest our time and our love and our selves in the lives of our children.

No excuses, just do it! Together we will make this world a better place!

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Fatherhood Foundation book review

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Warwick Marsh from the Australian Fatherhood Foundation has written a very positive review of
Good dads GREAT DADS.
He is a good man that works tirelessly to promote positive fatherhood in Australia. He is a man I respect deeply and here I share with you what he has kindly written about my book for his national audience.

REVIEW.

‘Good Dads Great Dads – footsteps worth following’ is the name of a fantastic book by Mal White. The forward says it all: “I dedicate this book to my three sons; Jordan, Jesse and Josiah. You have taught me how wonderful it is to be a dad.”

The ‘In Memory’ part really got to me: “To my dad, I wish with all my heart you did not die so young. (55 years) We would have been good friends. Thanks for believing in me, loving me and taking me fishing. My heart still yearns for you.”

‘Good Dads Great Dads’ only gets better when you read the chapter headings:
1. Do something,
2. Build Something,
3. Go Somewhere,
4. Say Something,
5. Model Something,
6. Create Something,
7. Impart Something,
8. Be There,
9. Share Something,
10. Read Something, and many more.

It may sound weird but I was crying by the time I got to the chapter headings. You see ‘fatherhood’ is all about doing something. When it comes to fatherhood, actions are absolutely critical. It is entirely possible for you to read this newsletter studiously every week but still be a lousy father. Sound hard to believe?

Let me tell you a story: I was doing a fatherhood event at a local school with a well known footballer. It was a father and son event. There was a talk and a barbecue designed to engender discussion and positive interaction.

A young man came up to me. I can still see his face: long black hair with a few curls, handsome and articulate and obviously thoughtful, probably about 17 years old.

I started a conversation and during our brief chat he shared the story of his relationship with his father with me. He said sadly, almost wistfully, “You know, my father has done all the parenting courses and read all the fatherhood books but he doesn’t spend any time with me”. He was not angry or bitter (to his credit), just sad. I could sense the deep mourning in his voice that he was trying to hide but it was there nevertheless.

Perhaps it was the memory of this young man’s haunting comment that filled my eyes with tears in the light of Mal White’s practical ‘do something’ approach to fathering. In my experience, if you don’t do something as a father you can end up being a ‘cloud without rain’ not to mention a huge disappointment to your son or daughter.

Reading Mal’s Chapter 8, ‘Be There’ brought home the vivid memory of a time I was not there for my daughter.

She was in Year 11 at school and singing one of her original songs (I found out later) at the school assembly. Parents were invited. From memory, my wife attended but I was too busy ‘saving the world’, or that was my excuse at the time.

Excuses are very easy to come by when you are a man, even going right back to Adam in the Garden of Eden and the story of eating the forbidden fruit: “It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit and I ate it”.

So I had a really good excuse. I was busy saving the world that day so I missed out on hearing my daughter perform one of her original songs in front of her friends and school. I had heard her perform the same song in concerts all over the world when we travelled as a family band, but I had never heard her singing her own songs in front of her school and friends. I have few regrets, but this is one of them.

What I can state with absolute assurance is that you will not regret buying a copy of Mal White’s magnificent book on fathering called ‘Good Dads great Dads – footsteps worth following’. I can also guarantee you will be challenged and encouraged to do something with your children.

The beauty of Good Dads Great Dads is that it is short, and has lots of photos. I reckon you could read it in one hour, give or take a bit. As a father, that could well be the best hour of your life you have ever spent for your children’s sake. Reading Mal’s book will inspire you to do something, with and for your children. As a tall black man once said, “Just do it!”

I will let Tim Costello’s recommendation speak for itself:
“I thank Mal White for the gift he is offering with this incredibly thoughtful yet practical work. Mal has tapped into a deep well of reflection and wisdom. I know that many will find this book a valuable help in enhancing their journey towards becoming ‘great dads’.”

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I don’t do this very often, nor do I do it lightly. I believe every dad in Australia needs to get a copy of ‘Good Dads Great Dads’. Buy a copy of this book for yourself and buy five or ten to give away to your friends. You solve the challenge of buying presents for people and you help the children of Australia at the same time.

Yours for great dads
Warwick Marsh

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