When travelling on public transport we always need to validate our ticket by swiping on and or swiping off. This makes the ticket valid for that trip.
Our children look to us as their parents to validate them as valuable, contributing and worthwhile human beings. We “swipe on” by encouraging our children, being attentive to them, spending lots of meaningful time with them, one to one, as well as altogether as a family.
When we make the effort to attend their sporting or creative events and show genuine interest in their hobbies and pursuits we are adding to this validation.
When you write notes of affirmation or send them a hand written letter that communicates our love to them that is letting them know how much they mean to you that is validating them.
A boy wants to know above all things that he measures up as a man in his father’s sight and that he is loved unconditionally by his mother.
A girl likes to know that she is a princess in her Father’s eyes and that she is loved and emotionally connected to her mum.
Take a moment to ask yourself, “What have I actively done this week to affirm, encourage and lift up my child?”
In other words, “Have I validated my child as someone that is of enormous value to me this week and is a truly wonderful human being just because they are who they are?
PS. Unlike a train or bus trip, you never actually swipe off as a dad.
Once a dad always a dad.